4 Reasons Being Modest Is The Hottest

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4 Reasons Being Modest Is The Hottest
December 4, 2013

I’m sure some of these attributes can be appointed to men as well, but in reality this post is for the ladies.

Here are 4 reasons being modest is the hottest:

1. It shows others you have respect for yourself.

- You wouldn’t let your future child walk outside half-naked would you? So, why would you allow yourself to do it? When it comes to being modest in the way you dress, I promise you that less skin will gain you more respect. Don’t get me wrong, I’m aware of things like backless dresses and slouchy sweaters, but you know those are not what I’m referring to. Try and stay away from extremely tight and formfitting attire. Here’s a tip: If you have to make a justification as to why it ok to wear, it’s probably not a good idea to wear in the first place. Any girl worth dating is one who respects herself from the top down and inside out.

2. It shows you value a yearning for purity.

- Men are visual creatures! And although that’s not always the case, you need to understand that what you show or don’t show can sometimes be the line between staying pure, and crossing the line. I’m not saying it’s anyone’s fault, but I am saying it’s easier to stay pure when either both parties aren’t giving each other something to fascinate about. That goes for the guys as well. Not only will dressing modestly allow you to look at yourself differently, but it will force you to highlight other aspects of yourself rather than your curves. Show your smile, bat those eyes, and start learning how to do that hair flip that can stop a guy dead in his tracks. Don’t give something away in a revealing dress that was meant to be saved for your wedding day.

3. It will attract guys who are interested in more than just your looks.

- Sick of attracting the wrong guys? Well, I’d first recommend you look at the way you may be presenting yourself. Frankly, you might be dressing just fine. But for some of you this isn’t going to be the case. If you are looking for someone to respect you, honor you, and treat your with the purest of motives, I suggest dressing in a modest fashion that will compliment what you are looking for in someone.

4. It shows you are different.

- Anyone can buy skimpy clothes and show some skin. The real world changers are the ones who realize they don’t need to dress the way culture tells them to. Don’t fall into the lie that you need to show something in order to get someone. Seek to be a Proverbs 31 woman, not a Victoria’s Secret Angel. Be different and show the world you are better than their standard of beauty. I’m saying things like bikini’s are necessarily wrong, but I am saying I would encourage you to re-think the reason you wear one, what it reveals, and how much are you wanting to expose. You were made for more than what the world wants you to be.

Modesty is what attracted me to my wife Juli. I didn’t have to see her in a revealing dress or bathing-suit to know she was beautiful. I could tell by the way she respected herself and her body that she was worth pursuing. Not to mention her heart for God is something I can’t explain in words.

- Jarrid Wilson


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Please don't beat me for popping in here!  I'm not looking around - just dropping this article off - I'm curious to know what you all think. 

How 'Modest Is Hottest' Is Hurting Christian Women

What the phrase communicates about female sexuality and bodies.
Sharon Hodde Miller


I remember the first time I heard the words chirped by an eager female college student as we discussed the topic of modesty. Her enthusiasm was mixed with perk and reprimand, producing a tone that landed somewhere between Emily Post and a cheerleader.

To be honest, my initial reaction to "modest is hottest" was amusement. I thought the rhyme was clever and lighthearted, a harmless way to promote the virtue described in 1 Timothy 2:9 and 1 Peter 3:3-4. No harm no foul.

Since then, I've heard this mantra of the pure proclaimed many times by young women, Christian artists (including, most famously, CCM singer Rebecca St. James), and Christian leaders. In conversations the phrase always elicits chuckles, but my response has changed over time. I still wholly affirm modesty as a biblical practice for men and women, but now I hesitate to embrace the "modest is hottest" banner. Those three words carry a lot of baggage.

The Christian rhetoric of modesty, rather than offering believers an alternative to the sexual objectification of women, often continues the objectification, just in a different form.

As the Christian stance typically goes, women are to cover their bodies as a mark of spiritual integrity. Too much skin is seen as a distraction that garners inappropriate attention, causes our brothers to stumble, and overshadows our character. Consequently, the female body is perceived as both a temptation and a distraction to the Christian community. The female body is beautiful, but in a dangerous way.

This particular approach to modesty is effective because it is rooted in shame, and shame is a powerful motivator. That's the first red flag. Additionally concerning about this approach is that it perpetuates the objectification of women in a pietistic form. It treats women's bodies not as glorious reflections of the image of God, but as sources of temptation that must be hidden. It is the other side of the same objectifying coin: one side exploits the female body, while the other side seems to be ashamed of it. Both sides reduce the female body to a sexual object.

Of course, this language isn't new. Consider how profoundly the female identity has been negatively linked to her body throughout church history. For several decades now, feminist theologians have critiqued the mind-body dualism by which Christians have equated men with the mind and women with the carnal body. Citing Eve as the original "gateway for the Devil," thinkers such as Tertullian have peppered Christian tradition with hostility toward the wiles of femininity. Origen likened women to animals in their sexual lust. According to author Jane Billinghurst, "Early Christian men who had to greet women during church services by shaking their hands were advised to first wrap their hands in robes so as to shield their flesh against their seductive touch."


There's some good comments here at the link.

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Jan 4, 2014 16:28:53 GMT -5 schwartzie said:

Please don't beat me for popping in here!  I'm not looking around - just dropping this article off - I'm curious to know what you all think. 

How 'Modest Is Hottest' Is Hurting Christian Women

What the phrase communicates about female sexuality and bodies.
Sharon Hodde Miller


I remember the first time I heard the words chirped by an eager female college student as we discussed the topic of modesty. Her enthusiasm was mixed with perk and reprimand, producing a tone that landed somewhere between Emily Post and a cheerleader...

There's some good comments here at the link.

I agree. Neither extreme is right. A woman should not be ashamed of the flesh she was born with, just as a man should not feel entitled by the flesh he was born with. Both are human; both bear the image of God; both were originally charged with ruling over the earth; both were designed as a team, not a hierarchy; both receive the same Spirit by the same faith; both are "heirs of the promise". All this obsession by the Christian community with flesh and roles and fashion police is the opposite of being spiritual.